To the Mom Whose Husband Works Long Hours

Hello Friend (Whose Husband Works Long Hours),

I see you there in the check out line. You’re wrangling all your kids and holding on by a thread just trying to get out the door.

I see the phone call you just got. I know it all too well, it’s the one saying it will be later than he thought. The call letting you know that you are on your own again for dinner, bath and bed time. You just want some relief, an extra set of hands, someone to share in the grind at home but… not tonight. I get it and I see you.

I am the wife of a fire fighting husband. His shifts are 24 hours long and end when the rest of us are waking up to start our day. He comes home exhausted and drained, desperate for just a few hours of sleep. His job is demanding and hard and requires more of him than I will ever understand.

Whether you are the wife of a fire fighter, a shift worker, a police officer, a member of the military, an attorney, a student, a minister or any other position that requires long hours you are not alone.

It seems that there is quite a large club of us these days. We moms who wear all the hats and juggle it all.

It’s a sacrifice to be away from your spouse on such a regular basis and to feel like the home rests on your shoulders.

But, learning to manage life like this long term is  a skill and it’s one not everyone can do. There are long days and sometimes you feel like you are drowning but I promise, you can do it!

I am in no way an expert on doing this with grace but here are 5 Tips for the Mom Whose Husband Works Long Hours.

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1. Do not Let Resentment Consume You

The sacrifices our families make to have one parent away for long periods of time is huge. Some days these sacrifices seem much bigger than what we thought we signed up for. Please know that your feelings are valid but resentment is like a sinking ship.  It is easy to allow our minds to wonder and to allow resentment to set in but don’t allow yourself to go there.

I get it, sometimes resentment sets in over the simple fact that your husband got to have a conversation with an adult that day while you watched Disney channel for hours on end. Or it could be that you do not feel appreciated. Talk to your spouse and voice your feelings. Let them know how you feel and put words to your emotions. Sometimes when we are going in a million different directions we forget to tell each other how grateful we are for each others had work.


Channing
Channinghttp://www.momswithoutanswers.com
Channing is half of the duo that is Moms Without Answers. She blogs on MWOA with her best friend Michelle along with their contributors. She has 3 girls and one amazing fire fighting husband. She is a follower of Jesus that is always looking for a new DIY project, a Bravo junkie, and a lover of chocolate. She is also a taxi driver, chef, dry cleaners and maid!

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